Pop psychology. Bane of couples and sane people everywhere.
I'm irked to find out that Greg Behrendt, the guy who co-wrote "He's Just Not That Into You," is going to have a whole daytime talk show about the same subject.
Please. It's not about the guy not being into you. It's about the guy being a selfish jerk and a loser. Ladies, do you really want a guy who doesn't treat you well, even though supposedly he'll treat that one "special" woman properly? Do you really want that guy who suddenly treats you well (maybe because you're aloof and "hard to get") after treating all his past girlfriends like so much dirt until he got to you? Do you think he'll continue to be good to you after the newness wears off, or will he revert to jerkdom after a few years?
And there are those guys who are just legitimately shy or afraid of commitment. Maybe they need to take it slow? Not all guys are ready to jump through flaming hoops of fire to be with a woman they've just met!
The most telling review of the book I've read was from a man on Amazon.com (where, ironically, almost all of the positive reviews are from women, and the negative reviews are from men). Apparently, this reviewer was taking it slow with a woman after being burned in a previous relationship. He really wanted a long-term relationship with this woman. She, however, read Greg's book and decided he "wasn't that into her." The result? Break-up.
"i dont like being whipped, i need my time and space... and things were working out slowly for me, i really looked forward to a haapy life, a fulfilling future..." the reviewer writes. "...well... now im single again, thank you greg. we all love you. especially me. for helping taken away what could've possibly been the best thing in my life..."
The best review, however, was from Miranda, "almost 15":
"...it seems like less of a way for girls and women to find good men, and more of something to help guys get girls out of their faces. I don't know about you, but I'm going to live life by my own rules."
You go, girl.